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Awesome weekend

Jun 1, ’11 12:53 PM

I took Friday off this past weekend to give myself the holiday weekend vibe, and just generally unplugged myself from all my work stuff, and it was awesome.

On Friday, The Girlfriend & I went to Boston Common to have ourselves a picnic! Found a nice quiet spot in the shade, and proceeded to enjoy a nice, languid day. Ended up wandering down Newbury after a while, checked out some sweet hats at Goorin Bros. (and found quite a few for both of us!), and finally ended up relaxing at my place for a while. Headed back to her place after a while, and she cooked up some super tasty lemon chicken, which I promptly gobbled up!

Saturday consisted of us lazing about for a while at her place, then packing up our swimsuits & heading to her friend’s place down in Dedham to enjoy a pool party! The Girlfriend’s good friend E came with us, and it was fun to get to know her, as we’d only exchanged hellos previously.

While we didn’t get a ton of time in the sun (the pool was in the middle of his complex, and we didn’t get outside until later in the afternoon), we had a great time, lots of good conversation & laughs. We ended up passing out at about 10pm that night at my place. Exciting, aren’t we? :P

Sunday consisted of us waking up at our normal weekday time (grrr, one of those “features” of getting old), but then we proceeded to watch No Strings Attached, which was both a super cute movie, and definitely channeled some of our own relationship quirks. Totally crazy, we definitely saw parts of ourselves in the characters in a big way.

After that, we met up with her friend L & L’s boyfriend for brunch at Daedalus by Harvard Square. Super tasty, and L’s boyfriend & I hit it off for sure; we’re both developers & musicians, so that’s fun. Proceeded to meander through some shops & pick up some tasty gourmet groceries in Harvard Square, then headed back to The Girlfriend’s place for an impromptu dinner party.

Much bourbon was drank, a whole chicken consumed, courtesy of The Girlfriend’s brilliant cooking, and hilarity ensued.

All in all, an abso-frickin-lutely awesome weekend!

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Sunday Funday!

May 23, ’11 11:39 AM

So yesterday, The Girlfriend & I spent the day together; went to brunch, did a bit of wandering, relaxed all afternoon at her place.

For brunch, had myself a super tasty Cuban sandwich, and I tried her mussels (first time I’ve ever tried ’em), which I found quite good! This, of course, threw her for a loop again, as she’s been trying to figure out what flavors/textures I like, and which ones I don’t. I’m all over the place with this though: I like sushi, but not mushrooms, french fries, but not potatoes. The list of random pickiness goes on.

The food thing has been really interesting with us; she’s a serious foodie and a great cook, but also super allergic (and has decided to go gluten-free), while I’m pretty basic in my food tastes and, quite simply, somewhat picky. But her excitement for food is completely contagious; I find myself totally wanting to try the things she concocts/orders/mentions.

After brunch, we meandered down Beacon to Coolidge Corner, stopping in a few shops, then relaxed with some coffee (for her) and lemonade-tea (for me), while reading and enjoying the gluten-free cupcakes I’d picked up for her at Sweet.

Finally, we went back to her place, where we dozed, snuggled, and nerded out for the rest of the day. Just a really brilliant day. Looking forward to many more with her!

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A little life update

May 1, ’11 3:49 AM

So, last time I posted was to say that I’d met someone. That’s turned into a relationship, and it could not be more awesome. It’s been years since I’ve had someone in my life like this, but she’s totally brilliant, and is totally keen on me too :)

She’s been on two trips since we got together, and I’ve sat at home without her; this time I’m the one off on a trip, leaving her at home, and man, fun as it is to see my friends in San Fran, it feels the same either way: I miss her terribly.

I’m pretty sure she’s gonna show up at the airport to greet me (which is amazing), but even if not, my first stop after arriving in Boston will be to see her. Unpacking can wait!

Interesting to note, I’ll be publishing this on the one month anniversary of us getting together. One month is definitely a short amount of time in the grand scheme, but I’m a sucker for milestones all the same :D

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Retraction — The End

Jul 22, ’09 9:30 AM

So we’re back together. Yeah, I know, we’re being a yo-yo couple, but seriously, things are good now. The whole “breakup” was very cathartic for Amber; she let go of a whole ton of anger & bitterness that was eating away at both of us. We both feel like a huge weight is gone, & we can be more open & genuine than we have in a long time. So, just like for me the breakup over the fall was good for me to sort things, so was this one for her (albeit, thankfully, much shorter).

Even more important for me, she’s using the word “love” again, which is huge. Fear gets in the way of so much…

I Love her very dearly (yes, that’s a capital “L”) & I want everyone to know!

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The End

Jul 1, ’09 12:45 AM

[Edit: We’re back together again. I know, I know… I’ll write about it soon.]

We broke up.

The last few months have been a struggle. Certainly I was, and still am, glad to have her back in my life. The silence that existed without her was deafening. But the mistrust, the constant struggle, it blotted out the sunshine our relationship needed to flourish & grow again.

I certainly sowed the seeds of that mistrust long ago, and I tried to uproot that foul growth & replace it with something, anything, that was better.

Instead, after two heart-wrenching arguments, we let it go.

I’m sad, and angry, that I couldn’t make things better, but most of all I’m worried about her. She is very much not ok, and awkward as it may be, I want to be there for her, even if I am “just” a friend now.

A friend of mine I shared this with already read her post on this topic, and it offers more insight into why things didn’t grow & heal. Please feel free to read & comment there as well as here if you like.

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